DEAR MAN for Work Conflict: A DBT Script That Helps

Key Takeaways

• DEAR MAN helps with work conflict by keeping your communication clear, specific, and less reactive.
• The skill works best when you know what outcome you want before the conversation starts.
• DEAR MAN is a structure, not a script you have to read word for word.
• Workplace conflict often goes better when you regulate first and talk second.

Why DEAR MAN Works at Work

Work conflict often becomes harder when you:

• over-explain
• get vague
• sound sharper than you intended
• avoid the real request

DEAR MAN reduces that drift by giving the conversation a simple shape.

Conclusion

DEAR MAN for work conflict is useful because it helps you stay professional without becoming passive. That balance matters when both the relationship and the outcome still matter.

If anger is part of the conflict, pair this with DBT Skills for Anger at Work.