Free DBT tool

Build a DEAR MAN conversation

The DEAR MAN Builder is a guided tool for drafting a clear request using the DBT interpersonal-effectiveness skill. Edit it until it sounds like you; a script is a starting point, not a demand that a conversation go perfectly.

D — What happened?Describe the observable facts without labels or assumptions.E — How do you feel?Name your feeling and why this matters to you.F — What are you asking for?Make one clear, specific request or boundary.G — Why could this help?Explain a realistic benefit of meeting the request.